Archive for July, 2007

Career Success Secrets

Published by Chris | Filed under Personal Development | July 16th, 2007

Are you miserable at your job or (what you are doing) but go to work everyday anyway to earn a living? Do you feel you are unable to use your talents to doing the things you love and are doing things that are stressful? Wouldn’t you rather be in your ideal income position? Think how your life will turn around when you’re actually enjoying your work. In your ideal income career you will be doing what you love and so good at it that you will produce value which will attract more personal rewards (including money), than you need.

Does it sound impossible? Well it isn’t. Here are nine secrets to get the success career you will enjoy for the rest of your life.

Secret #1 Focus on you first, before looking at a career

Most people have followed the same trial and error path to work. They take a job that appears to be the best �opportunity� and try it out. They adjust to what their bosses and the company want in hopes of advancement. They eventually discover that they are stuck in a job or career that they really don’t like. Then they decide to try another job �opportunity� and the error cycle continues. To get out of this job rut and get your ideal career you will want to look at your wants and needs first, to discover what your ideal career looks like, before you select your next position.

Secret #2 Discover your true passions

All of us have things we are passionate about doing, but have suppressed them because of a number of reasons. Even though you do not consciously know your passions exist, your subconscious �gut� does. You are probably fulfilling a hidden passion when you do something that gives you a very good �gut� feeling. Conversely, when your �gut� tightens up and creates stress, it is probably because you are doing something at work you are passionate about NOT doing. Once you consciously discover what you are passionate about doing and not doing, you will be able to create a position that allows you to fulfill both. When you follow your passions, you eliminate your conflicts, you have more energy, you have more fun, and you become much better at what you do.

Secret #3 Discover your true desires and priorities

Most of us do not take the time in life to discover our true desires and priorities. We seem to just go with the flow and hope that we are heading in the right direction. We tend to suppress our true desires and priorities for the sake of others. Yet, the one big reason we feel so frustrated in working at a job is because the work conflicts with our true desires and priorities. These conscious conflicts create guilt, doubt, and eventual stress. Yes, you can balance your personal, work and family priorities, but only after you dig to discover what they truly are. You can organize your occupation around your own personal priorities, which will allow you to perform much better at work and reap the additional rewards you deserve. For example, look at how many home-based businesses have popped up to allow people to fulfill both family and work priorities without undue conflicts.

Secret #4 Discover your true values

Everyone has his or her own value system. Unfortunately, people rarely look into them and more often than not accept the values imposed by the companies they work for. Just look at the damage caused to the many employees of Enron, World Com, Global Crossing and others whose beliefs did not agree with the misguided values of the CEO’s and higher executives. Were all of the employees misguided? Certainly not. Most had very honest values but they were penalized anyway.

Secret #5 Discover your true talents

All of us are blessed with certain talents, yet we rarely stop to really figure out what they are. You will enjoy working, be much more productive, and generate more quality results when you maximize the use of your talents at work. Your increased productivity and higher quality results will attract greater rewards for you. Matching your natural talents to your income position will create greater enjoyment and attract increased rewards at the same time.

Secret #6 Create or develop your ideal position to fit you

People rarely perform this step because they fall into the rut of chasing job �opportunities� and the disastrous trial and error method of choosing their work. Why, because they are led to believe that creating an income position to suit themselves is not possible, even while they are frequently told to do what they want. Remember, it is your work selection process that is flawed, not you. Once you know your passions, desires, values and talents, you will be able to develop and find a number of careers that will allow you to fulfill all of them at the same time. Now you will be creating the position to suit you, instead of taking a position and adjusting to it. Believe it or not, the more you know about yourself, the easier it will be to create and find your ideal position.

Secret #7 Go get your ideal position

Now you are ready to get your ideal position. If your ideal position is an already established job, you will be amazed at how easily and quickly you will be able to get it. Your enthusiasm, your confidence, your talents to perform, and especially your capacity to produce many quality results will attract any worthwhile employer. They will know you really want to perform, instead of just applying for a job. If your position is not a job, but one where you are either a business owner or an independent contractor, you will easily and quickly begin the process of building the position to suit your personal criteria.

Secret #8 Get Help from the right person

People are led to believe that they can easily look within themselves and discover what is there on their own. Self-help books and assessment tests claim that reading the book or taking the tests will reveal all you need to get your ideal career. Yet, both methods fall very short of actually getting to the truth. Discovering what you really want, what your true talents or values are is not a self-help process.

We humans cannot see our face without using a mirror or a photographic image. Just as you must look into a mirror to see what you really look like, you must have another person act as your objective mirror to see what you really want to do and be in life. Seek out and get someone to be your objective mirror to discover the truths about yourself, to find or create your ideal position.

Secret #9 Once you obtain your ideal position, stay there until it suits you to leave

Many people actually obtain a position that they really love and it fulfills their wants and needs. Then along comes the promotion to elevate these very productive and happy workers, because they are so happy and productive. They are expected to perform even better and with more enthusiasm because the new job pays more and has a higher status. But it doesn�t work out that way. The new, higher position is very different from the one they loved so much, and performing it is much more difficult which creates conflicts and stress, especially with the additional pressure to do more.

Once you arrive at your ideal position, have the courage to remain in that position until your wants and needs change to drive you to get the new position to suit your new criteria. The acceptance of promotions to suit others has ruined far too many happy work relationships. Take control of your work and accept promotions only if they increase your ability to fulfill your personal wants and needs.

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Five Tips To A Stress Free Life

Published by Chris | Filed under Personal Development | July 5th, 2007



I recently read this article about stress management (author unknown)…

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A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.”

“If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. “In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.” “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”
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The question is, what are you doing to manage or reduce it? What burden can you put down to help you reduce stress? Notice that I did not ask if you had stress. I assume you do.

I’ll bet that you can identify something generating stress in your life right now that you’ve been carrying for a while … something that was probably stressing you a month ago, or even a year ago. So what are you prepared to do about it? Here are five tips to help you reduce stress.

1. Identify what is burdening you right now

What do you hate about your life? What are you tolerating? By stating what you hate or are putting up with in your present circumstances, you can then identify what you want. As you answer this question, consider each of the categories mentioned below. Make a thorough list and be specific. This list is for your eyes only, so spill onto paper whatever you hate about your present circumstances, without trying to sugar-coat how you are feeling. Here are some examples:

* Relationships: I hate feeling like I always have to be right. I hate how my son never wants to spend time with me.

* Health & Wellness: I hate being 20 pounds overweight. I hate getting so out-of-breath when I take the stairs. I hate that I am so stressed that I cannot fall asleep at night.

* Financial Health: I hate how I always defer my tax returns because I am so disorganized with my financial records. I hate how many tax deductions I forfeit because of my lousy record-keeping practices.

* Environment: I hate how my office is cluttered with piles of paper. I hate that I waste so much time looking for things. I hate how much money I waste because I have to buy something I have but cannot find. I hate that I cannot park my car in the garage because of all the junk stored in there.

* Work: I hate regularly working past 5 PM and on the weekends.

2. Deal with unresolved issues

Is there something in your past that you have not dealt with – psychological barriers, untreated disorders, unfinished business from your childhood, unresolved relationships, addictions, or depression? If so, seek professional assistance to clear a path for a new beginning. Without first dealing with these obstacles, you may sabotage your efforts or find major resistance to making the changes you desire.

3. De-clutter and create order

Creating order in your home and work environment may help you to gain clarity as you explore the horizon of some new directions in other areas of your life. Here’s my definition of clutter: Anything you own, possess, or do that does not enhance your life on a regular basis. It’s hard to make room for something new amidst all the clutter … whether that clutter exists in your physical environment, on your calendar, or in your head.

4. Move from complaints to solutions

Look at your list of things you hate (above), and design a vision around what you want and choose for the future. Create a chart that includes the complaints, solutions to achieve your vision, and projected dates of completion.

Tried everything and still cannot find a solution? Ask someone else to help you brainstorm a solution, or make peace with it and quit thinking of it as a problem.

Eliminate excuses that are undermining your vision. For example, if you feel like you have to work late, examine the excuses that are undermining your desire to leave the office by 5 PM. Are you staying late to catch up with e-mail or to meet deadlines? How can you eliminate the excuse? Build in time to handle those activities during regular work hours.

5. Get support as you change behaviors

In order to create new behaviors which will get and keep you at the enhanced level at which you wish to function, you may need support. An accountability partner or personal coach can help you:

* Reflect back what you say you want so you can hear yourself.

* Clarify what it will take to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

* Build in accountability check-ins (without judgment) around the actions you choose to take.

Identify the level of support you need in order to reach the goals you’ve identified, and then ask for help.

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Becoming the Sensuous Man

Published by Chris | Filed under Personal Development | July 4th, 2007

I was twenty-two year before I really learned how to make love to woman. And by the time I knew, I had wasted seven years. Seven years of embarrassment, disappointment and frustration.

You couldn’t pay me to turn the clock around, nor even for all the gold in Fort Knox. Today my sex life is adventurous, satisfying, and full of variety. It’s no accident that I am never without a warm, loving and appreciative woman my side.

That was not always the case, until I became a Sensuous Man. To put it more accurately, I learn how to be a Sensuous Man. Any man can. We’re all born with the ability to be sensuous. Unfortunately, very few men figure out the techniques that will enable them to become great lover. Not sex but great lovers. That’s why I writing this article, to help men who have not yet learned; who unable to win, hold, and share the joys of sex with the women they so desperately desire. I’m not a professional…remember that, I’m just share my experiences.

Are you one of these men? Behind most men is a fear of inadequacy, the suspicion that they don’t really measure up in the sex department. The sex life of the average guy is really pretty sad; and deep down he suspects that every other guy is doing better.

Trust me, they aren’t most of them. Too many men make love like clods, heavy-handed and clumsy. Too many men are selfish and inconsiderate in bed. Too many men are incapable of the glorious achievement of bringing a woman to orgasm. And too many men are unable to satisfy even themselves.

Take me for example, my sex life was typical, founded on ignorance and restricted to clumsy grappling with girls even more ignorant that I. That quickie in the back seat of a car never quite lived up to my expectations. It was mostly soggy clothes, messed-up makeup, embarrassment, hurt feelings, and fear of discovery.

But that was yesterday. Today sex is unending joy for me. What happened to change my appreciation of sex? Experience and some luck. Mostly luck. I met several women knowledgeable enough to broaden my outlook and teach me a thing or two about having sex and women. Sexually sophisticated themselves, they were fun with me, boosting my ego on the one hand while illuminating my shortcomings on the other. I learned to make love with inhibition, to receive love without embarrassment, and to give love without restraint.

With tender hands, a probing tongue, an erect penis, and a wild imagination, a five-foot guy can feel ten feet tall to the women with whom he’s making love. With practiced control of ejaculation, your confidence can be boosted to the point where you will able to excite and delight the most sensuous woman. You cam develop the techniques and power to lead her in position of infinite variety. And she will be not only willing but thrilled to oblige and participate.

The Sensuous woman will always seek out the sensuous man, for she knows that she will be raised to the ultimate plateau of sensuality. You can be that man.

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Google Maps Falls Short to Microsoft Live Maps

Published by Chris | Filed under Internet | July 1st, 2007

There is an aerial view picture taken from Google Maps.

Google Maps (Click text for external link, images for zoomed jpg)


And this is a satellite picture of the same location is from live.com Maps. Has Microsoft caught up with Google? … For once.

Microsoft Maps, Ariel view

Well the picture is clear. Perhaps Bill Gates and Microsoft are not dead after all.

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